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Stop Judging Other Bloggers

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I’ve noticed a very disturbing trend in the craft/DIY community that I’m not okay with. There seems to be a huge influx of bloggers judging other bloggers verbally, on social media and in blog posts. It seems everyone has an opinion not only about their own blog these days, but about everyone else’s. I’m hearing a lot of comments like the following:

  • “Truncated posts are bad. She is just trying to get more page views.”
  • “She runs too many giveaways. One giveaway a month is definitely the maximum.”
  • “Getting paid for blogging is wrong. I don’t get paid. See?”
  • “She did a sponsored post about a vacuum cleaner. I would never do that.”
Guess what I think? It’s time for it to stop, and immediately. It’s unhealthy, it’s not inspiring and it goes against the positive vibe that I’ve felt in our community for years (and want to continue to feel). I remember when I started blogging – how supportive every one was, and what a pleasant “place” it was. It’s definitely still that way, but I feel the negativity creeping in more and more frequently these days. Perhaps it’s because there are more bloggers and it feels crowded; perhaps it’s because we feel we have it figured out so we have to defend our own choices. Whatever the reason may be, I’m asking that we all get back to our roots and stop with the negative posts and social media criticisms. We should start today, and I will lead the cause.

Of course I don’t want to leave it at that; I think it’s important to tell you where my head is, point-by-point. Plus I love providing lists, if you haven’t noticed from my other articles. So here you go: why you shouldn’t judge other bloggers (including me).

You’re causing unnecessary drama. Let’s face it, when you get a lot of women together, there can be drama. I’m guilty of it myself. We form close bonds and tight relationships, but we can be catty and talk behind each other’s backs, too. I’m sure guys do it too, but I’m not a guy so I can only speak as a woman. We have enough drama in our personal lives; let’s keep it out of the blogging world. Plus, a lot of these bloggers you don’t even know in real life. Why are you causing drama with people you don’t really know?

It’s not productive. I’m not trying to sound like a jerk, but unless you are in my close blogging circle, I really don’t care what you think. I run my blog the best way I know how. I look to my readers first for their guidance on what I should be doing, since I owe it to them. Just because you don’t think I should truncate my feed doesn’t mean 1) that you are right or 2) that I’m not going to do it. If you want to be productive, write an article for a blogging site (like this one) and make it impersonal and as unbiased as possible so that people can make their own informed decisions. That is helpful. Otherwise you are wasting your own time.

You haven’t walked in my shoes. I’ve been blogging for four years and while it might not seem so, there is a method to my madness. I do things for specific reasons, and trust me when I say that I think things through as thoroughly as possible before I do something. This is my full-time business, and I treat it that way. Maybe I posted about dish soap and you would never do that, but that doesn’t mean my reasons for doing it are invalid. Until you’ve done a Freaky Friday and sat in front of my computer, you can never really know why I do what I do. Please assume the best from me, because I assure you – I’m doing my best. I’m not always going to make the right decisions, by the way. Let me learn from my own mistakes.

Everyone is still learning. Blogging hasn’t been a profession for that long. I feel like I have a pretty good mastery of it, yet I’m still learning new things every day. New blogs are coming online all the time and we are all at different stages. Maybe Sally hasn’t yet figured out that talking video ads aren’t well received. She might not have a blogging community. If her blog looks like a train wreck, you could always direct her to Crafterminds.com or invite her to be part of your blogging group. Be the solution! Oh, and it’s not always newbie bloggers either. Maybe you see a snafu on the part of a seasoned blogger, but remember, everyone is still learning. Even big bloggers make mistakes.

You might not have the same audiences. I’ve learned in the last year or so that I have a very different audience than a home decor blogger (for example). My readers don’t comment as much and they don’t enjoy complicated projects. Given that there are different blogging audiences out there,  you can assume that different blogging tactics work for those audiences. Sure, there might be some overlap, but let a blogger decide what is best for her audience. If she does too many sponsored posts or giveaways and her audience doesn’t like it, she’ll pay for it in page views. Let her readers decide what works for her and let your readers guide you.

Your readers aren’t bloggers. I’m confused as to why anyone would waste a blog post about blogging in general, much less criticizing what bloggers do. Do you know that most of your readers are not bloggers? And if you aren’t a blogger, it’s hard to understand what it’s like to be a blogger. So unless you are giving some sort of behind-the-scenes look just for fun or writing something educational and not been covered before, you are just wasting a blog entry. Several years ago there weren’t a lot of articles written about blogging; now there are tons in existence (and craft bloggers have written a lot of great ones). Why recreate the wheel? 90% or more of your readers (maybe more) completely missed the point because they don’t know what you are talking about. Not only that, but you are abusing your power and encouraging mob mentality. Your readers trust you and are loyal. It’s not fair to try to foist your opinion on others when they don’t understand the dynamics. I want my readers to make informed decisions, not just jump on board with me because they like my blog.  Let’s give our readers what they really want: inspiration!

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Are all bloggers good bloggers? Do all bloggers make good decisions? Absolutely not. Does that mean that you need to speak up, tweet it or write a blog post? Not necessarily. If you feel a blogger is doing something that is harmful to bloggers at large, send them a personal e-mail expressing your concerns and then let it go. Let’s share information with each other and be friendly about it when we do. Pick and choose your battles, and go by the saying “live and let live” as much as possible. Run your own race. You’ll be better for it, and so will our entire community.

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74 Responses to “Stop Judging Other Bloggers”

  1. Allie says:

    Can you hear me clapping? BRAVO!!

    Something I said while speaking at EVO this summer that got me a huge round of applause was that other bloggers are our community not our competition. I know for me once I understood that blogging really took off and and I hope others can come to that same conclusion too.

  2. Well said Amy. Focus on the positive. Be part of the solution. Build a community. That is what we are here for.

  3. You hit the nail on the head…again! I detest negativity, and still live by the mantra, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all.” Not always in life, but definitely in blogging. I know I’m not perfect, and am constantly trying to figure it all out…thank goodness I haven’t been hit to hard by any negativity, yet.

  4. Well said, and I agree! More positive conversations and less negative drama. (I love your line about Freaky Friday…) :)

  5. “I’m confused as to why anyone would waste a blog post about blogging in general…”

    Well, I write about blogging every other weekend, and I do it because I get loads of feedback from bloggers who say they appreciate it. Perhaps I’m just in the wrong state of mind as I read this, but it comes across to me as portraying the very attitude that you say you’re against.

    • amy says:

      If that works for your audience Kristi, go for it. I don’t personally agree with craft bloggers becoming blogging resources. There are plenty of blogging resources out there. I see us as magazines – and you don’t see Lucky Magazine writing tech articles. There are always exceptions and maybe yours is one, but for the most part it doesn’t make sense for a craft blogger to write blogging articles when 99% of their audience is there for inspiration. I don’t think my pointing that out is negative. I’m encouraging people to remain on topic rather than taking precious time out to criticize other bloggers (many “educational” articles out there are just an excuse to crap on people; I’ve seen it time and time again, hence I’m writing this post).

      • Amy, I agree with the overall intent of the post. I think you’ve made some great points.

        But while you’ve insisted that we shouldn’t judge you (or others) for the decisions that you make for your blog, and the topics that you want to write about (e.g., a post about dish soap or vacuum cleaners) because we haven’t walked in your shoes and we can’t get inside your head to understand that you do have a reason for doing the things that you do…

        …and you’ve stated so eloquently that because I’m not in your close blogging circle, you don’t care about my input about your blog, and we should all just stop judging each other for the decisions we make…

        You’ve ended the entire post with a judgment about me (and others like me) who write the occasional post about blogging. You’ve stated that we’re “just wasting a blog entry”, that you don’t agree with us giving space on our blog for that purpose, etc. In other words, you’ve ended a post about “stop judging” with a judgment of your own towards me and others like myself who have made the decision for our own blog to give space to the topic.

        Whether or not you agree with it is irrelevant, just as you stated in the previous paragraphs of your post. Just like it’s irrelevant whether or not I agree with another blogger posting two sponsored posts per week if she feels like that’s the best decision for her blog. I personally hate sponsored posts, and I think they’re “wasted blog entries” that have little value. But in the end, it’s not my business what someone else does with her blog.

        I can’t believe that I’m the only one who sees the irony in this. The only one bold enough to say something, perhaps. But certainly not the only one to see it.

        The post is good, the overall message is a positive and necessary one, and the intent is good. But it ended on a sour note for me, because I have been judged, and parts of my blog have been deemed by you as “wasted” blog posts.

      • Some of my fave creative/decor magazines include acticles/sections on small businesses which I think the main purpose is to not only highlight the businesses but to encourage readers who are pursuing the same dreams! If the only reason they write those posts is to serve as an advertisement then people like me would just skip over it. I read to see that dreams can come true and how they did it. What their obstacles were? Tips for how to get into the biz. etc. Creative minds who share those tips may not get hits from their readers who aren’t bloggers but it is certainly appreciatd by bloogers who are growing and can read, be inspired, and learn practical information all in one place. Otherwise I would not have the time to create!

  6. Janette Johanson says:

    Great post and it’s so good to hear & be reminded of! Thank you… I hope others find it as helpful and encouraging as I know many will!!

  7. gail says:

    I guess I don’t follow social media very much. I haven’t seen any negativity.
    Negativity is bad for sure. We do need to support each other. That’s why I love conferences. Everyone seems to share so much info.
    gail

  8. I guess I haven’t seen too much of this negativity. I’m so glad that so far my experiences have been mostly positive! But, for those that haven’t had that…I’m so sorry!! And this post is a great reminder!!

  9. Amy, you’re a saint. i love your heart and what you feel for the blogging community. it shows in every action, tip, shared info & advice that you’ve shared! it takes more effort to be negative & i’ll never understand for the life of me why people always pick that route.

    love this post & i agree that no matter how big or small we are, we are ALL learning.

    “it’s time to stop and immediately” – 100% agree.

    thanks the your raw honesty! it’s so refreshing!

    kellie

  10. Emily says:

    I’ve only been blogging for a few months and I’ve been gob smacked by how helpful and kind other bloggers have been. In an ever changing environment like blogging I’m surprised that anyone thinks they know enough to criticize the choices of others. I’ve got to assume its jealousy, which is a hard thing to fight sometimes. I know sometimes, if I’m tired, I can feel overwhelmed by how creative and talented other people are and feel a bit little and incompetent. Maybe snarky comments make them feel better in the moment.

  11. AMEN!!!!! Can’t we just all get along?

  12. Leanne says:

    Wonderful post! I think we just need to assume the best in each other. I don’t know what benefit comes from tearing each other down anyway.

  13. Amen. Can I just say that “Amy Anderson Rocks”?

    I love the DIY/craft community and I want our niche to remain true to our roots. Being publically critical of others more often than not gets us no where. Let’s focus on the positive! I wish more of our community would stop worrying about others and spend that negative energy on a new creative project or post. THAT would help our niche more in the long run.

  14. Thank you for writing this, Amy. Thank you for reminding me, and hopefully others, WHY we are blogging in the first place. Yes, it might be easy to judge, criticize and condemn others, but that is no reason to give voice to those feelings.

    Do I see things online I don’t like or agree with? Of course. Do I see a whole lot more that inspires and delights me? Absolutely. If it weren’t for those bloggers who inspire, delight and offer support, I would’ve quit blogging a long time ago. Thank you for being one of those bloggers. Just couldn’t do it without you.

  15. great post! I am in total agreement, and, in fact, I’d like to add that I have seen the same thing quite frequently as of late in educational-blog circles. It’s exhausting, unnecessary, and toxic. And I think more and more of us who have been around for 4+ years need to keep reminding everyone to blog with integrity, to play nicely, and, like Allie said, to focus on the fact that others aren’t our competition but are our community.

  16. We’re still fairly new to the game, and I haven’t seen any of this negativity – yet. I hope I don’t, as we try to follow good blogger examples. I view other bloggers as resources that can help me, and so far, everyone has been extremely gracious. Thank you for this article, I hope it makes a difference!

  17. Hi darling, I ran across the chat on Facebook, I’m glad I ventured over to read your well put together post. Thank you for doing so. As a blogger of 4 years and still the newbie on the blog you’ve hit every nail on the head that runs through my mind on a daily basis… You absolutely rock.. hugs ~lynne~

  18. ashley says:

    totally agree ;) this is why i love you amy….

  19. Elizabeth P says:

    I have seen snarky comments on some blogs, and when I was blogging, I didn’t get the responses I wanted, so I changed what I did on my blog. It’s srill out there in cyberspace, but I have let it go for awhile because it can suck up all your time.I, too, believe in the immortal words of Thumper “My momma says if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. Constructive criticism is helpful, and we know what is not helpful. So be nice, be a part of the community. And in Real Life, try being nice too !

  20. Marty says:

    I haven’t seen so much of the criticism and negativity, though a few bloggers seem to have a chip on their shoulders. – Since I have no idea what’s going on in their lives, I mostly blow by it. But a lot of the criticism and negativity would probably just send me elsewhere.

    I have definitely noticed the part about thinking everyone else is a blogger or that most people are part of that “elite” group. I’m guessing that would be a good audience for someone to target, especially using guest bloggers to give different points of view. Otherwise, why do blogging conferences draw such big audiences? I’ve learned a little about the blogging world from reading bloggers, but it definitely isn’t why I follow my favorites. My outsider advice is just to figure out who your audience is and to target whomever that is.

  21. I agree — Amy, you rock. Thanks for this post. This past week I have been feeling really down with all of the drama and negativity. I just want to make projects and it sucks all of my joy out of my blog to deal with people criticizing each other. I think we need to be supportive of each other. We may not agree with what another creative blogger is doing and it might not be the choice that we would make, but we need to support each other. Give people the benefit of a doubt. Every person I have met is doing the best that they can. We don’t all do every single thing right. We are learning from our mistakes. But we are trying. And I believe in supporting each other.

    xoxoxoox

  22. Mary says:

    Hi Amy –

    I could not agree more with your post. Thank you.

    I’m a pretty new blogger(9 months) and I can honestly say that I had no idea what I was doing in the beginning and I’m STILL clueless about so many things. The one thing I am so glad I had, in the very beginning, were several supportive bloggers that took me under their wing. Had I read some of the strong (sometimes rude) views/opinions/comments out there, “Do’s & Don’ts” “You should do it this way OR that way,” assuming that every blogger has the same taste, followers, resources…reasons for blogging – I would have said the heck with it and quit. Luckily, I had support of fellow bloggers that rooted me on…and still do. I am so grateful to have them.

    Thank you so much for this post. There is more than enough room for all of us in Blogland, not matter the size.

  23. Thank you so much for this Amy! I think it is high time someone address this. You did such a great job stating it like it is but in a gentle manner. I have personally had several judgements made about me (one even right in front of me at a blog conference). Everyone has a different journey and who are we to judge. I too love how supportive this community can be. There is enough room for EVERY blogger and we need to realize that the way to grow is through community and support of each other.

  24. Nicole says:

    I’m so glad I came upon this post. As a rookie blogger I have been trying to figure out what I should & should not do concerning my blog (there are so many conflicting opinions out there). This is a great reminder to forget about what others are going to think about my blog & follow the vision that I have in mind. Thanks!

  25. A Wise Woman once said “Surround yourself with ONLY people who are going to lift you Higher” – Oprah.
    Blogging is about writing for your readers, about surrounding yourself with people who want to hear what you have to say. My readers are my cheerleaders, and are what keep me dreaming up new projects.
    It’s unfortunate that the blogging community has turned into a bunch of critics, quick to give their opinion on anything and everything. But, I don’t write for them.
    I am However, grateful for the friendships I have made with other bloggers, who have given advice, recommendations, and help as I have tried to make an impact on my little spot on the internet.:0)

  26. I totally agree with your impression that there seems to be more negativity floating around, but I feel I should point out that there also seems to be a clique (or seven) in blogland and it is *incredibly* intimidating for a small blog like me. I have met some truly awesome bloggers (Vivienne, and Kristy up there to name two…) who have been supportive and helpful and more than willing to give advice, but there are also *many* “big” bloggers out there who tend to stay within their clique and discourage small blogs (either intentionally or unintentionally) from blogging. I’ve read at least two blog posts lately that basically say, “Well we’ve been around longer than you so you really shouldn’t bother working to be a huge blog like us.” I’ve literally given up reading certain blogs because it feels like high school all over again. “Sorry, you’re not cool enough to hang with us, our hoards of followers, and our staff of contributors. You should just head back to your little tiny corner of the blogosphere.” Sometimes, I feel like people need to see *some* constructive criticism in order not to alienate people – for example, small blog bloggers who look up to them. We don’t want a hand out, we just want to feel like part of the community and not like we forgot to put on deodorant this morning.

  27. Oh, and I should point out that I *do not* post snarky comments even when I do feel people are being less than welcoming. That would be rude.

    • and ditto! If you don’t have something nice to say then either find something nice to say or say nothing! I have completely unfollowed one blogger in all forms despite the fact that I love their work over a blog post they wrote to/about their readers! I think their can also be snarky blog posts as well as comments/emails and NEITHER are acceptable in my opinion!

  28. Well said… and I think it goes way beyond blogging. I can’t believe how critical mothers are of each other. I would like to add…. “Stop Judging Other Mothers too”

  29. Julie says:

    Fantastic, well written post!! This is my first time here Amy, but I am happy a friend of mine turned me on to your post. I am pretty new to blogging (Feb.), but I have quickly learned how awful some people can be. I received an e-mail from a woman telling me my grammar was bad and that I needed to have someone proof read my posts. At first I was devastated as I do take great pride in every post I write. When I sat and thought about how to respond back, or even if I should…I realized she spelled grammar wrong. That was a huge turning point for me. From that point on I knew that I will never let another mean comment influence me in that way again. For me blogging isn’t about comparing or telling others what they need to do to be better…I just focus on what feels good to me…even if it is different from what everyone else is doing… and I do it. I find that when I free myself from doing what others think I should do…I become way more productive and post some pretty cool ideas because I am not worried about what jo shmo says! Thanks again…kudos!!!

  30. HouseTalkN says:

    Yay for BE NICE! I take the same approach with icky comments that I use when my kiddos are cranky- DO.NOT.ENGAGE.!
    Thank you for putting it out there!
    Kerry at HouseTalkN

  31. Lisa Fulmer says:

    Great read and I agree…live and let live is the best way to, well…live. Blogging is by nature “the peoples’ soapbox” and that’s the beauty of it here in our lovely free country. With the internet, everyone has a voice and a platform to use it…but online bitching and bickering is indeed a colossal waste of everyone’s time, not educational or inspiring in the least. It’s even easier online than on TV to change the channel when you’re not enjoying what you see…and even, even easier to unplug and go outside to enjoy the day, maybe even enjoy the company of a non-virtual friend, lol.

  32. Michelle L. says:

    REally interesting to read through all this! Jeesh, I have been reading the wrong blogs, I guess, and missed all the drama…have not seen a single snarky post that I can recall. (Point me to it, I love drama, heehee.) No, seriously: I’m sorry to find out that anyone is feeling judged, criticized or put down. Negativity is so alien to my experience in blogging! I can count the number of negative comments I’ve received on one finger. (Ahem – and I remeber it word for word, of course!) I feel really lucky in that way, because some bloggy friends have had such a different experience.

    Amy, the thing that made me sit up straightest in this post was the VERY important reminder about how different each of our audiences can be. Thanks for the excellent illustration of that point.

    Personally, I don’t mind sponsored posts, ads or reviews in my favorite blogs; if it’s a topic that doesn’t interest me, I simply don’t click it or read it – how easy is that? How many times must it be noted that blogs are FREE? You don’t have the right to get mad at something you do not pay a shekel to read.

    I can also understand the POV of Kristi, who likes to write about blogging. As long as it’s informative and entertaining, sounds okay to moi. But if people are doing it in a hurtful way, c’mon, peeps, counterproductive.

  33. Jenny says:

    I love this post! It’s so thoughtfully written and it hits home to so many of us! Thank you a million times!

  34. Sherry says:

    I really like what you are saying here, Amy. Blog for whatever reason you felt inspired to start a blog for…don’t fall into the trap of trying to follow all the “rules” that everyone is putting out there or feeling like less of a blogger if you aren’t. There are different audiences for different people and if we all follow all these guidelines where will the spontaneity and individuality come from? What good is it if the internet is full of cookie-cutter blogs? Use your common sense when sifting through all of this advice and rules. Do what works for you and your intended audience. Negativity is a virus. I avoid it whenever possible.

  35. I think it is far too easy to judge someone else’s choices, when in reality, we only see a small snippet of what they are doing in their life on the blog they write. Who knows what is going on behind the scenes. And just because something doesn’t make sense for me to do on my blog, doesn’t mean it is the best thing for that particular blogger to be doing. If we can all just assume that each person is doing the best they can with what they have I think we could all be a lot more compassionate with each other.

  36. Katie B says:

    Judge not lest ye be judged. good points. I see benefits of truncated posts for readers. I may not want to read your whole post, or look at the 15 photos of your fabulous European vacation that just makes me feel poor and jealous.

    The first paragraph (like in journalism) should draw readers in. I am willing to hop over to view content that is well written and/or relevant to me. If I worked as hard as those who need (yes need) to truncate their posts to protect their material I would be super upset too if someone were stealing it outright.

  37. taradara says:

    Hey Amy,
    Thank you so much for bringing this up and putting it out there. We are all blogging for different reasons. We are doing things for our own reasons, not only in blogging but in life in general. I personally hate {and I don’t use that word much} when people judge me {and others} when they don’t know the full story. We all have our reasons for making choices that we do.
    So, I am completely with you and much of my blogging friends and will be by their side no matter what.
    xo Tara

  38. Amy, very well said. Thank you for taking your time and the courage to stand up and say what others want to!! Take time to build up, not tear down… that’s what our words are for!! Encouraging others!! So thank you!! ~ Lori

  39. Nancy says:

    Wow, this was really eye-opening. I am just a hobby blogger and not even a very good one. I’m really not in tune with the blogging world and what goes on in a majority of blogs anymore. I have a select few that I follow and on occasion I will find new ones to visit. Thank you for bringing these things to our attention.

    It’s truly sad to think that people would actually make these comments on a public forum. I can see women being catty and perhaps thinking these things…but to actually say them…wow.

    As I said, I am a hobby-blogger. I am quite different than those who have ads, do give-aways, do a DIY project a day, etc. And that’s by my choice. For those who are serious, professional bloggers, that is their choice. I do not begrudge them the right to make a few extra dollars by selling ads, doing reviews or whatever. After all, they are doing their readers a service by reviewing various products and showing off their DIY talents, which goes a long way in inspiring others or helping those who would like to attempt similar projects.

    I will say one thing and I don’t mean to offend the writer of this blog post or anyone else that my comment doesn’t apply to, but a very few “big” bloggers can tend to get an attitude due to their “celebrity blogging status”. This is a turn off for me and I tend to not give them much of my time. I’m more down to earth and prefer to read blogs written by women who are also down to earth.

    That’s my rant for the day…thanks again for posting this! It was very insightful!

    Nancy

  40. Amen! I love what you said and I love how you said it.

  41. Nancy says:

    Wow, this was really eye-opening. I am just a hobby blogger and not even a very good one. I’m really not in tune with the blogging world and what goes on in a majority of blogs anymore. I have a select few that I follow and on occasion I will find new ones to visit. Thank you for bringing these things to our attention.

    It’s truly sad to think that people would actually make these comments on a public forum. I can see women being catty and perhaps thinking these things…but to actually say them…wow.

    As I said, I am a hobby-blogger. I am quite different than those who have ads, do give-aways, do a DIY project a day, etc. And that’s by my choice. For those who are serious, professional bloggers, that is their choice. I do not begrudge them the right to make a few extra dollars by selling ads, doing reviews or whatever. After all, they are doing their readers a service by reviewing various products and showing off their DIY talents, which goes a long way in inspiring others or helping those who would like to attempt similar projects.

    I will say one thing and I don’t mean to offend the writer of this blog post or anyone else that my comment doesn’t apply to, but a very few “big” bloggers can tend to get an attitude due to their “celebrity blogging status”. This is a turn off for me and I tend to not give them much of my time. I’m more down to earth and prefer to read blogs written by women who are also down to earth.

    That’s my rant for the day…thanks again for posting this! It was very insightful!

    Nancy

  42. LOL,I promise I wasn’t trying to copy Heather – but that’s EXACTLY what i was going to say….SO DITTO Heather – Amen Sista!

  43. I possibly am a pioneer to blogging as I am now in my 12th year. In my years of viewing drama on the blogs I made the decisions over the years to moderate my blog, not share as many of my own designs and decor and started recently avoiding blogging groups on Facebook due to the negativity. Sad!! I truly wish it would stop but it’s a sad cycle. Bravo to you for being so upbeat and rising above it. United we stand :)

    xo Molly of Fleur de Bee

  44. My goodness, this is a great post! And to be honest, I think you could take out the words “blog” and “blogging” and insert the words “life” and “living” in their place. We’d all be better off without judging one another. Thank you for your boldness in writing this!

  45. Vanessa says:

    Hi, Amy

    I agree with your post. It’s heartbreaking that women are not encouraging women and uplift each other.
    Thanks for sharing.

    Vanessa

  46. Can you see me giving a standing ovation?

  47. Desiree says:

    Amy, Amy, AMY…. YOU ROCK!

  48. Jennie says:

    AMY- GIRL-I love you to pieces first and for most!!!! I loved this post and 100% AGREE with it all. I truly think that what it boils down to (along with the catty-ness as mentioned) is jealousy! Its an ugly green monster that lives inside everyone and some just know how to tame it better. HA! anyway, I love the bloggy “supportive” community and I think everyone needs to just relax, smile a lot more, and eat more CHOCOLATE! hugs loves. jen

  49. :) good advice for life in general too! I had someone who I don’t even believe is a reader email me because they were so disturbed that I used the word too incorectly. She was correct but the need to point it out really irked me. I think because whether it was her intention or not she made me feel like an idiot. If something isn’t a big deal and it’s most likely going to hurt/offend/ or irritate someone then it is best left unsaid!

  50. Sibylle says:

    “..It seems everyone has an opinion not only about their own blog these days, but about everyone else’s. ”

    I guess Clint said it well: “Opinions are like assholes. Everybody has one.”
    Great post amy,thanks:-)

  51. I am going to preface this by saying that this is not a comment to jab at anyone but simply the thoughts that run through my head on sponsored posts/giveaways. I love a giveaway as much as the next person and would definitely participate in hosting them given the opportunity. That being said every individual blogger has to weigh what the cost is of hosting giveaways and with what frequency. When I see these types of posts on a blog I automatically think “ok they are a successful blogger” and then I start checking out their page to see why. I have been on blogs that have sponsors and giveaways but seem devoid of actual creative content(which most likely was there before in order for them to grow to the point of getting sponsors). In those instances where it seems like the majority of posts are paid posts it can start to leave a bad taste in the mouth of the reader especially if they are a blogger who works hard coming up with creative content and wants to be inspired on other “creative” blogs. Tell me if I’m wrong but it seems that the intention of sponsored posts/giveaways/ etc. is for the mutually beneficial purpose of advertising a product/brand/blog/etc. and growing the following of the parties involved. If it s taken to far (and that’s the tricky part…where’s the line) it starts to feel like the blog is buying readers with the prospect of winning something which snowballs into more sponsors as their pageviews and rankings go up. Sometimes the cost though is that people leave feeling uninspired and other bloggers might feel like someone has sold out choosing $/followers over content and true care for their readers.

    In addition some blogs place stipulations for entering giveaways beyond simply leaving a comment (must follow blog, like on FB, follow via Twitter/Pinterest, etc.) If the point is to introduce readers to a great product then demanding the follow is obviously for the sole purpose of growing the blog. Since blogging is/can be a business, if you choose, then you can see why people do this and can’t fault them for it. But, it can lose the creative, I truly care for each and every one of my readers vibe! But for a blogger those stipulations feel justified in the fact that it just feels wrong to have someone win who isn’t even following/reading your blog. I am sure there are tons of people on the web just surfing around and entering giveaways all day long and as a blogger/faithful reader of many blogs it would be frustrating to know if someone who falls in the giveaway hopping category won something.

    Point blank, I think what works on each blog i based on the direction they are heading business or pleasure or both and finding the balance between whatever you so choose.

  52. Janell says:

    Glad to have come across this article! Important message to be out there. Janell

  53. Excellent post Amy! As a crafting/DIY community, we should focus on creativity, inspiration, and encouragement. We will never please everyone and should not allow our efforts to be restrained and negatively influenced by the naysayers.

  54. Marcie says:

    I’ve been blogging for what seems like a lifetime. In reality it has been about 8 years. Am I a pro? I would like to think so but being self-taught and learning everything by the seat of my pants, well I just say I am experienced. I think as bloggers go, we all blog for different reasons. To some it is a challenge, others a way to pay off debt, some a career, so on and so forth. For me it began as an offer to help a friend who was going on vacation and needed someone to tend to her blog. I got hooked. I have built and launched at least 20 blogs only to get bored and dump the majority of them. Two blogs were pretty successful (IMHO) with 10K readers and the other with 8K readers. You still only make pennies with that many readers most of the time too!

    You wear MANY hats as a blogger. The amount of work you do is probably 10 -15 times more than just the writing. The blog becomes a child who needs CONSTANT attention if you are even semi-successful. If you make it to success, then you can hire a lot of that done.

    I so totally agree with the “walk a mile in my shoes” portion of your post. That mile is different for every blogger. We each have similar yet different hurdles. Why we blog also factors in as does our expertise in all things blogging.

    Once again I have shifted my niche. I wanted a long-term way to support our income if my husband had to retire early. I purchased a commercial embroidery machine and I am learning to use that slowly but surely. It made sense to me to have an online presence and I knew how to do that. So, a new career is born once again.

    At this point, let the haters hate, let the judges judge because not a single one put a penny into what I do or a second of work into how it turns out. If I learned anything along the way, I should do what I love and be happy doing it. Simply hit the delete button or the block button and move forward when folks want to be negative and ugly. I don’t have time for those that are against me when all I ever wanted was to help others and be happy. For the loyal readers, they get the best of me and anything I can do to help them live a better life with any knowledge, skill or ability I can share.

    If you are a blogger, I will happily share anything I know even if you end up stabbing me in the back and talking about me. That is your karma not mine. On the flip side, if you share any of your knowledge with me, I am happy to accept it and see if it will enhance anything I do or make my life easier. Gotta love a plugin that saves time you know!

    Now back to my embroidery machine! I have a LOT to learn and 16 needles are awfully intimidating.

  55. Julie says:

    Ok, I’ll put in my two cents! I haven’t seen any negativity except what was justified (they had their ideas/products stolen). In that case, I don’t blame them, but even so, they never name the thief. I’m sure it’s out there. Maybe I just don’t notice it because I read and visit what interests me. If it doesn’t interest me, I don’t click into it or just delete and go on. As far as the giveaways go, they can do it everyday. What does it matter? I have a twitter and facebook acct. but I don’t do anything on them. Sure, I’ll follow. Makes no difference to me. If the giver has something to keep me interested in steady reading, then I’ll steady read. If not, I hope I win, but will not be back. So again I say, what does any of it matter (except the be nice part)?

  56. Michelle says:

    Amen! This is a community to support, uplift, and safely share. I could not have said it better!

  57. Alex says:

    I don’t think that everything in the blogging/crafting/etc world needs to be all sunshine and rainbows and unicorn farts all the time- nothing in life is all good and happy and positive all the time, and that’s okay.

    But yeah, I don’t see what anyone has to gain by bitching about how someone else runs their blog. Who CARES? Don’t you have other shit to do, like, you know, tending to your OWN blog? If you don’t like what someone else does, use that information to make your own blog better. If they annoy you, don’t follow them. Easy peasy.

    (That said I do think it’s useful to hear that your readers do or don’t like truncated posts (or some other formatting choice) – personally I’m almost always too lazy to click through and read them, which is why I don’t use them, but if my readers preferred that I did (I do get quite wordy sometimes) and let me know as much, I would consider it. Likewise if someone told me that my text was hard to read on the background I’d chosen, or something like that… that sort of criticism I want to hear about!)

  58. Alex says:

    (I do have to disagree that your readers aren’t bloggers, though! Not all of them are, of course, but most people who blog also read others’ blogs.)

  59. amy says:

    My point was completely missed. I never said “readers aren’t bloggers.” I said most readers of craft blogs are not bloggers themselves. For most blogs, that is accurate. For my blogs and all the blogs of my friends, that is accurate.

    Most bloggy learning articles that I’ve seen in the recent year are judge-y articles. They are information veiled by “ur doin’ it wrong.” THAT was my point. They are not objective, and ultimately, not helpful. They just end up making people feel bad. I’m sick of those negative articles.

    Also my point – and I’ll say it for the tenth time – do what’s best for you. I stand by what I said. This piece is an opinion piece, and to your point Alex, you can read and agree or you can disagree and move on.

    PS – it’s impossible to ask people to be nice and stop judging without sounding slightly judgmental. I own that part of it.

    • Alex says:

      “and to your point Alex, you can read and agree or you can disagree and move on”

      Whoa, whoa, whoa, I wasn’t trying to be confrontational, I didn’t realize it wasn’t okay to voice my disagree with a minor point. All I meant to say is that you’re assuming a lot when you say that most people’s readers aren’t bloggers, because it totally depends. Take http://www.craftypod.com/ – she’s built a small empire blogging for craft bloggers (and other crafty professionals.) I pretty much never blog about blogging, but I know many of my readers are designers and bloggers themselves from interacting with them. It doesn’t challenge the main point of your post at all- unnecessary and especially *personal* negativity is fruitless and silly at best and cruel and harmful at worst.

      You seem to contradict yourself a little though:

      “If you want to be productive, write an article for a blogging site (like this one) and make it impersonal and as unbiased as possible so that people can make their own informed decisions.”

      “I’m confused as to why anyone would waste a blog post about blogging in general, much less criticizing what bloggers do.”

      You’re blogging…about blogging…on a blogging site…telling a bunch of bloggers (as far as I can tell from these comments!) not to blog about blogging. But also, if they have an opinion about blogging, to blog about blogging. It’s all very meta, haha.

  60. Bren says:

    A-freakin’-MEN!!! I have to say that I have summarily unsubbed from so many blogs lately because I just don’t need to hear any whining, especially from someone whose information I actively seek out. Sheesh!

    Thanks so much for saying what so many of us have been thinking…….

  61. Barb says:

    Amen! If you can’t say something nice, I don’t need to hear it! let’s all help each other. There is enough drama in the world today. I read blogs to escape that stuff.

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